It is also never too late to make, revisit or renew resolutions when it comes to parenting. I read this article in Independent School magazine and thought I would paraphrase and share some of it with you.
It was written byMadeline Levine
a practicing psychologist, author, and co-founder of Challenge Success a project of the Stanford graduate School of Education. I had the pleasure of listening to Dr. Levine at a Common Ground Speaks presentation some years back.
Dr. Levine offers Ten Resolutions for Becoming a More Grateful Parent. I was struck by the similarities in her words and what is near and dear to our own philosophy of developing self-reliant young people:-
I will not do for my child what he can do for himself.
This inhibits motivation and the ability to innovate
I will not do for my child what she can almost do for herself.
At one time your child could almost walk, now she can walk.
I will love the child in front of me
Appreciate and be thankful for your child’s unique gifts.
I will not push my child to be perfect
Life is full of mistakes, imperfect days, and human failings. Children need to be able to feel happiness and gratitude in the face of imperfection. This builds resilience.
I will make sure my child gets a full night’s sleep
Children need between 9 and 11 hours a night, sleep deprivations impairs concentration and compromises the ability to learn
I will not confuse my needs with my child’s needs.
Over parenting is not healthy for parent or child
I will remember that I am a parent, not a CEO.
Don’t’ catastrophize about grades/results, you will reap the benefits
I will value my own (adult) life
Being a happy fulfilled parent is one of the best gifts you can give your child
I will honor the importance of Playtime, Downtime, and Family Time
Don’t overschedule, children need down time, or “hang time” as we like to say.
I will remember the success trajectory is a squiggle ≈ not a straight line
We know our own paths took twists and turns, life does not always go as planned.
Submitted by Colette B. Cross